This entire piece and comment section seems old school to me like we’re comparing methods on catching fish. We MEET and possibly connect with women. We don’t GET women. I do agree we should know ourselves and be confident in who we are and that’s often attractive to women. At age 50 I’m just myself and it works. Whatever. Stop trying so hard. In my 20s I got laid holding up walls too stoned to talk at cheesy clubs about as much as my “Confident” mates who tried to Get women with their manly ways.