I think of my great-grandmother often as she lived a sort of tormented life. Left behind in China while my great-grandpa forged a life here in America, he had found another woman by the time she made it here with my grandma and Mom. With the culture being what it was at the time she blamed herself for somehow not being good enough and that's why her husband ran off with someone else. Our thoughts have energy so your grandma definitely hears this story!