After 3 years and having many friends who are divorced, I’m not so sure “totally gone” is possible. The resentment and devastation hits less and less and lasts a shorter duration, but daaaaaaaaamn…I have happily engaged friends who still have waves of sadness. I think it’s a combination of healing and just growing stronger to carry the hurt. The many layers of healing and emotions from divorce is actually amazes me. Hah! After a great weekend with a woman I’m dating, there’s this empty feeling when my Ex drops the kids off. Such a mindfuck.